Sadly, it’s not only in the movies that hilarious misunderstandings occur (for everyone but those involved) that result in your girlfriend getting mad at you and swearing she will never speak to you again, wish I hadn’t met you or expected you to die, etc. . It’s frustrating when you know that you haven’t done anything wrong and you know that if she understood the situation, she would be fine with her, maybe even more like you. With that in mind, this article gives you some tips on what you can do to reconcile the situation and win your girlfriend back.
1. Understand why you are so upset.
Instead of starting by claiming your own innocence, take a moment to see things from their point of view. Let’s say he caught you hugging his sister naked. Now you know that his sister just got out of the shower, slipped and hit her head on the floor and is currently delirious. It is quite logical for you that you should help this poor girl, but it seems to your girlfriend that you are getting along with her sister.
2. See if she is willing to let him explain.
If it can be explained, this is the best way to do it, however it may not be an option. If she leaves the moment you enter a room and burns a letter the moment you give it to her, then your explanation will not be fulfilled. Your first job is to try to explain things to him simply and clearly. But if she’s not open to your explanation, then you shouldn’t push her (yet!). Remember the first step: she is angry and confused right now.
3. Get someone she trusts to explain.
If she is not willing to hear your comments, you should call for help. A breakup is a difficult time for everyone, and especially when mutual friends are involved. If things are allowed to escalate too much, it will quickly become a situation where friends will have to choose sides. And this sucks. Find someone who is a mutual friend and explain the exact circumstances. Let them know that you are still in love with your ex and that you would really like to talk to her to fix things. So give them the space to do it. The time may not come right away, and this friend is doing you a huge favor here. Nor should you be offended if they say they are not prepared to do so. Going to bat for you could be seen as choosing your side in the conflict, and that could cost them a friend, too.
4. Be available to her.
One thing to remember when you want to get your girlfriend back. Make it easy for her to get in touch with you, but don’t force her to. Calling her every night is not going to help. If you have done all of the above, you have shown that you are sorry and have somehow given you the correct version of events. If you want to go back, you will, and if you don’t expect an apology from her for not understanding the situation that originally caused the breakup. Just let her know how happy you are to have her back and how much you are going to enjoy being together from now on.
Above all, you need to understand that while misunderstandings are frustrating, they do happen and we must treat them very carefully. You can’t be confrontational about it, you want your girlfriend to come back to you willingly and happily, not to feel dragged down or guilty. Follow the tips above and you should be fine.