What is clear is that if a man finds himself in a position where practically his entire life revolves around his mother and concentrates on her needs, he will not feel empowered or feel in control of his own life. You probably feel like your mother’s possession and that you have to do what she wants.
This is, of course, assuming that he is aware of how he feels and is not closed. There is a possibility that behaving in this way is what is normal, which means that you will not be aware of the fact that you are living the wrong way.
Keeping it down
If this is the case, you will likely do what you can to keep your true feelings at bay, and this may be something that usually occurs unconsciously. Therefore, the anger and frustration that you are likely to experience by being this way will be pushed out of your consciousness.
So without letting go, you can do what you can to keep your internal feedback at bay and continue to behave in the same way, even if it doesn’t serve you well. The upshot of this is that feedback that would inform you that you are living the wrong way will be out of your reach.
A miserable existence
And, because you are not in touch with yourself and you do not live a life that is aligned with who you are, it is unlikely that you will live a life worth living. His life is likely to be greatly diminished as most of his life force will be directed towards his mother.
If you have a tendency to avoid both feelings and thoughts that would shed light on what is happening to you, you could be in for a shock if faced with reality. You would soon see how much you neglect your own life and how unsatisfying your life is.
At this point, you may feel completely helpless and unable to do anything for your life. If a man has been aware of how he experiences life for quite some time, this may also be how life feels and views.
With this in mind, a man who is emotionally entangled with his mother will not be an empowered human being. It will not matter if he is an adult, as he will not feel strong or capable.
Therefore, because of how your life feels and views, you will just have to tolerate what is happening. It doesn’t matter how much pain this is causing you or how miserable your life is, you will have no other choice.
Because of this, a part of him may wish that he could go back to the way he was before. Then you would not be aware of what is happening, but at least you would feel comfortable not realizing what is happening.
If you were to discuss your experience with someone, someone balanced and understanding, you might end up telling them that you are not helpless. You could be told that you have the power to live your own life and create a life worth living.
Ergo, although it won’t feel like that, this will be the truth. Hearing this, the man might experience a change in his mood and begin to feel hopeful, but he might soon end up sinking again as time goes on.
It won’t matter if what you’ve been told is the truth as, as far as he’s concerned, he won’t have any control over your life. However, this will not only be seen as something he believes in, but it will be seen as the absolute truth.
Consequently, the only way your life will change is if you change your mother or if someone comes to save you, for example. Other than this, you will have no choice but to put up with the miserable life you have.
What’s going on?
What this will likely illustrate is that you have learned to be helpless and that is why you don’t see a way out. Most likely, there was a stage in your life where you felt powerless, and since you have not been able to move past this stage, you are unable to embrace your inherent power.
During your early years, your mother probably used it to meet some of her unmet, adult childhood needs. This would have meant that most of his own needs had been ignored and he had to be there for his mother.
This would have made him suffer immensely, but he could not have done anything about it. He would have felt powerless and helpless as he was powerless and helpless.
Therefore, these were not “irrational” or “negative” feelings; they were feelings that reflected reality. The only thing she could do to manage the pain she was in was to disconnect from her feelings.
Years of training
Year after year, he would have felt helpless and unable to do anything about it, leading him to believe he was helpless. As a result of this, now that you have power and are free to live your own life, you will continue to behave in the same way.
In a way, it will be as if you have lived in a prison for many, many years and now that you are free to leave, you will not be able to. The door will be open and not only will you not go through it, but you will not be able to see it.
If a man can relate to this and is ready to change his life, he may need to seek outside support. This is something that can be provided with the help of a therapist or healer.