Have you ever wondered what “objections” you have to sex? Have you ever come across the situation where you can chat for hours, days, and even weeks or months and still not end up under the blanket with each other?
There are 3 common obstacles that women put between you and her. In this article, we will discuss all 3 and the easy ways to overcome them.
Obstacle number one: she is not “turned on” enough
Usually, you’ll hear her say things like, “I’m tired, I better go home” or “Maybe we should slow down.”
If you slow down for just another 10 minutes, you can get what you want. Because that’s the only and easiest way to turn her on – just take your time and take your time. Gradually builds the mood.
The only other rule about sexually arousing her is to be “gentle,” which means gradually turning up the “heat” when you’re intimate with her. Don’t go from touching her hand to licking it.
Instead, touch her arm, touch her waist, touch her face, start kissing, and then slowly get more and more intimate. In this way, you are building up the sexual tension and gradually putting her in the mood. By the time she’s aroused, she’ll reach the point of no return and start begging for sex.
Obstacle number two: she doesn’t feel comfortable in this place.
Maybe she doesn’t feel that there is enough privacy in her house. She may not like the feeling of having sex with you in a cheap hotel like she’s a whore. So how about you convince her to go on a date in the backseat of your car or in one of those big spinning wheel compartments you can find at many theme parks?
One way to overcome this obstacle is through a technique called “mind shaping.” Ronaldinho, a well-known Brazilian soccer player, uses this technique to help himself score goals. Before the actual soccer game, he will “imagine” himself about how he will try to get the ball to the goal post and the joy he will get when he scores the goal.
What you can do is use a technique called “shaping.” It is a kind of mind training to “visualize” the things you intend to happen in order to cultivate positive thoughts in the mind.
Here are the easy steps:
(1) Find out how you want him to act. For example, you may want her to be an adventurous woman who lives in the moment.
(2) Tell a story about someone you admire who did something adventurous or lived in the moment. Ask her to “imagine” herself doing something unusual and getting more satisfaction from it.
(3) Tell why you admire this person because they are adventurous and live in the moment.
Gradually and with some encouragement, she will slowly evolve into the type of girl you want her to be. It’s the same kind of psychology exercise; a great coach uses to motivate his players to perform at their best.
Obstacle number three: bored with sex
You are treating sex as if you were taking your car for a regular refueling activity. You see it as if it were a car that you routinely schedule to drive to the gas station for recharging. Your sex with her becomes predictable by following a schedule and repeating the same movement over and over again and gradually she becomes less enthusiastic about sex.
What can you do here so as not to fall out of the usual “mold” of activity?
To get out of this rut, you have to be spontaneous. Make love to her when she least expects it. If you have sex at night regularly, you can sometimes switch it to morning or evening. You can also try a new sexual position or use sex toys. If you’re not the aggressive type when it comes to sex, change your behavior. Take care of seducing her, start the previous games, place her body in the way you like. If you are the aggressive type, you can excite her through actions/talking and make her take the initiative.
One more important thing to keep in mind is that all forms of sexual stimulation start from the brain. If his overall feeling when he’s with you isn’t good, all the stimulation won’t work. At all times, you must make her feel good and desirable. After all, she is a human, not a sex object or sex machine that just mechanically responds to your stimulation! Compliment her on her looks, clothes, surprise her with small gifts, be romantic and once in a while schedule dates at her favorite restaurant or whatever activity she enjoys, relieve her stress with some massage or doing some chores to lighten her load and just be a calm and pleasant person. attentive listener when she is depressed.
To recap on how to overcome obstacles to sex:
(1) You must be patient to spend more time stimulating her.
(2) Use mental tactics to cultivate, nurture, and “shape” your thoughts.
(3) Break your sexual routine.