I met Claudia a few months ago using my simple “Hey, how are you?” line on a wintry Saturday night in front of an apartment building in downtown Chinatown. She was wearing these lovely cream colored gloves that had three sparkling diamonds embedded in the back – she was holding a cigarette in her right hand while holding a Blackberry in her left hand. I could see the cigarette smoke dispersing into the air as I gently exhaled; her lush pink lips added to her alluring appeal. She was wearing a light gray BOSS coat that fitted her well over her shoulders. At the bottom of her tight dark blue Nudie jeans was a pair of chocolate brown ankle boots. However, it wasn’t what she was wearing that caught my attention. What really caught my eye on that cold Saturday night was the fact that this girl was extremely comfortable in her own skin. First impressions are paramount and this girl definitely had a distinctive aura about her. I only spoke to her briefly before parting with her digits, but here was a girl who showed confidence in the way she spoke. She was frank, but her witty comments struck a fine balance.
What kind of girl is she? She is an alpha female.
According to UrbanDictionary.com, an alpha woman is “a human woman who is keenly aware of the fact that she is sexy, desirable, and that everyone wants to be with her, and maximizes this knowledge to control / dominate everyone around her” . She is usually sarcastic and very intelligent because she is powerful and playful. It flaunts its superiority over beta females and males in general without fear of retaliation. She goes out with all the males she wants, is strong and confident, and in addition to being a hard-working Often busy. An alpha female may feign interest in a male to further her own agenda, but in reality no male can satisfy an alpha female, not even the alpha-est of alphas. By standard definition, all alpha females are b! tches but they’re pretty misunderstood, but it doesn’t matter because you’d do anything to be with her anyway. Since many men cannot handle the traits of an alpha female, this is a testament to her presence in today’s society.
Simply put, if you think the girl with the know-it-all personality who just doesn’t respond to your advances is a bitch and therefore difficult to handle, wait until you meet an alpha female. With an alpha female, he will wait a week before texting you saying he was “in Shanghai for an IT expo”, he will call you for a drink at a ridiculous time with minimal notice, but then no show! But that’s okay because you will apologize and say that your “friend had a food poisoning attack” so she had to go to the hospital. So she gives you another moment and now you’re even more enthusiastic, but once again she doesn’t show. The cycle continues until she completely demoralizes you! Why do this? Because she can, it’s quite a challenge for her! Why does the cycle continue? Because the guy is an idiot!
From a personality standpoint, the alpha female is far from being an idiot. She is a lady of sophistication, but she will sit you down and roast your fudge if you mess up. Alpha females exude confidence because they know they are good. She is extremely witty and sarcastic, and she is definitely an intellect. Since she is witty and sarcastic, most men (and maybe even women) can find her humor very condescending.
Now when we relate the above qualities to her dating prowess, she is “the [wo]MAN “! There is no greater joy to her than a challenge. She will have MANY men on the move and if any man shows the slightest signs of fear, she will sniff him out and drop him like a dead weight. She ALWAYS will.” seems busy “but actually, she has all the time in the world (but not for you, of course!). From a relationship perspective, she will be the one wearing the pants because she likes to dominate. Now these qualities make her sound like An absolute force to be reckoned with (and it is!).
So how do we deal with the alpha female? Now that’s the question.
Dealing with an alpha female can be as simple as living your life and being yourself. Think about it. All you have to do is pay no attention to it; You’re not doing it on purpose, but it’s just that you have more important things to do than sit on your butt waiting for her to answer you or respond to you. call you back. The last thing you want to do is be at their beck and call – expressing your interest is great, but there’s something called being overzealous. If you decide to get into a relationship with her, do you really want to be with someone who constantly plays with your masculinity?
AskMen.com recently published an article on alpha females titled “6 Signs You’re Dating an Alpha Woman”, detailing the methods to counter her “arsenal of weapons.” He suggested that the method of dealing with an alpha female is to fight fire with fire, that is, if she’s bombarding you with a series of witty and sarcastic comments that are aimed squarely at your manhood, then you should be ready right away with a comeback of equal or greater wit and / or sarcasm. I definitely agree with this, but wit and sarcasm do not prevail in all men. However, who can say that you cannot work on this and thus improve yourself? The second method is something that only applies to life in general, always defend your position and keep your dignity intact. Simply put, if you find her too condescending, tell her! Be a man!
The alpha female can be VERY condescending, but despite all the negativity that surrounds her, most of the time she is misunderstood (as is the alpha male). To be honest with you, I actually admire the alpha female quite a bit because she does a wonderful job of turning little boys into men. A broken heart may be all a man needs to reconsider his views on dating and move on. Now she may be an absolute “ball buster,” but just like anyone else, if you get to the core of who she really is, I’m sure it will bring a positive result. And you know what? You will become a better person in the process because now you can deal with such a robust personality. At the end of the day, you will realize that an alpha female is really like any other female, that is, she will have her insecurities (we all have them!) And she will have her grumpy days, but really, she just wants a little. boy to talk to her and listen to her.