I am writing this article because I realized that while I was going through a difficult time in my life and going through the process of emotional healing, there were times when out of the blue something or even someone would say or do something without knowing it that would send me into an emotional spiral because it triggered a negative memory or a time in life gripped by strong emotions.
Once the moment passed, I began to wonder what I could do to not be undermined by emotional triggers in my life. It has a lot to do with your thought process working with your emotions. I have been in the process of healing my soul and crucial to that process was dealing with how I think and how it was affecting my life. For the most part I am positive, but a long season of growing pains had created many wounds in my soul. I made the decision to no longer see through my wounds and to see from a healthy soul that begins by getting rid of the negative thoughts that have been bombarding me. To do so, I began with prayer and sought God for wisdom and a solution to deal with the pain in my soul. Below are the solutions it has and is still working for me. I’m programmed to be productive, so this feeds into my day and what I’m going to do that day.
1) Pray and quiet down within yourself to hear the answer.
2) Once the answer comes, stay committed to the healing process. It will take time to heal in your soul.
3) Stay Diligent It takes 21 days to establish a new habit and 90 days to become a way of life.
4) I listen to and observe positive teachings on how to think and heal my soul every day.
5) I wake up praying and then listen to teachings on the radio to replace negative thoughts and self-talk with faith-filled thoughts and words.
6) I listen to worship music and worship God through songs, I also listen to relaxing music without lyrics sometimes. This creates a peaceful environment that leads to my soul healing.
7) On tough days, push harder and don’t stop the healing process.
8) It is crucial to take care of the eyes, ears and heart.
9) Negative things happen and it is important how you handle your emotional response
10) Believe in yourself and make the decision not to align yourself with a negative perspective and choose to see the good
For example, there is a great worship song that was sung at my sister’s home service and one Sunday in church the song was sung. I started to get emotionally unstuck on the inside but no one around me knew I was struggling and wanted to run but the Holy Spirit assured me that I would be fine with a comforting peace. I started saying Hallelujah to calm myself down and focus on worship. To this day I can’t listen to that song anymore, but I learn to handle the trigger. My pastor AR Bernard taught us that he will take twelve pieces of positive information to replace one piece of negative information. Yes, it is a battle, but it is worth fighting to be truly free, healed, and whole in your soul.
This pretty much sums it up when it comes to triggers… Proper breathing is crucial to help calm yourself down and collect your thoughts in order to respond and not react to your triggers.
Quote: Take a breath. Break. Iyanla Vanzant