Are you wondering how you can be a good girlfriend? Since you’re reading this article right now, I’m assuming you’re already in a good relationship and want things to stay good or better.
Well, whatever the case may be, almost every girl is looking for advice on how to be a good girlfriend at one point or another. But what really is the definition of a good girlfriend?
Let me make it absolutely clear that being a good girlfriend isn’t really about doing all the right things at the right time. It’s also not about going the extra mile to make your man feel super special.
Let me share a list of things you need to know if you really want to be a good girlfriend and have a great relationship with your man…
Learn to deal with conflicts in a healthy way…
The length of your relationship will clearly depend on how you handle conflict and arguments in a relationship. You cannot be a good girlfriend unless you are well equipped in this area.
The arguments will be there whether you like it or not. And there’s a good way to deal with them and then there’s a bad way.
If you really want to be a good girlfriend, you should never…
- Try to impose your point of view on him and act as if you are always right.
- Put things against him that he did in the past or keep accounts.
- Let the discussion drag on for days or even weeks.
The only good way to resolve a conflict is to first understand their side of the story and then consider yours and peacefully come to a conclusion.
Have a life of your own…
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re stuck. If you really want to be a good girlfriend, you need to understand that her life doesn’t have to revolve entirely around you.
There are many common mistakes that girls make, such as:
- Trying to control it one way or another.
- Scold him every time he doesn’t do things the way you expected.
- Not letting him go out with his friends from time to time.
- Being overly needy or demanding.
Never keep secrets…
I can’t even explain how important this point really is. If you already keep secrets from him, then it is very important that you find a way to open up to him or else sooner or later it will only lead to disaster.
Why do you ask? Well let me put it this way. Would you like me to keep secrets for you? I suppose not. Therefore, how can you suppose that he will agree to your keeping secrets from him?
No matter what kind of secret you have right now, one day it will come out and that is the moment everything will collapse.
stop trying…
It’s completely unfair to test your boyfriend from time to time. Think about it: you are already in a relationship with him. There is no real need to test it anymore.
And if you are already trying to prove it, then it is no longer a relationship because you have lost that sense of trust that you and your man used to share before.
You really don’t have to test it to know what’s going on sometimes. Let me give you the best trick… Ready? In agreement! Here it is-
TALK TO HIM.
Sounds simple, right? Well, this is the best way to clear things up when in doubt. Testing or using tricks means your relationship has already gone downhill and it’s only a matter of time before you break up.
Personal things should remain personal…
Do you often share the secrets of your relationship with your friends? Well, it can be a big mistake. You can never be a good girlfriend if you keep leaking everything that is supposed to be just between you and your boyfriend.
In fact! Some girls let their friends handle their relationships. How silly is this? Think about it? Every time you have a problem in your relationship, you pick up the phone and end up calling one of your friends when the best thing would have been to talk to your boyfriend peacefully.
Let personal things be personal. I’m sure your boyfriend won’t like his secrets being used as gossip on a coffee table.
Give him appreciation, admiration and respect… Then you’ll see what happens…
If you really want to become an outstanding girlfriend, you need to give her constant appreciation, admiration, and respect. Men crave these things and will do anything to keep you happy if you give them these 3 things.
Here’s a good example of this… Say the following from time to time…
“John… you make me feel very special. You are a great guy and I am lucky to have you in my life.”
Prayed
“John… I really respect the fact that you do so much to make me feel special. You are an amazing boyfriend.”
Just saying the above lines from time to time will do wonders for your relationship. And he will always try harder to keep you happy and pleased too.